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Developing Resilience Overcoming and Growing from Setbacks - withlovewenDeveloping resilience, overcoming obstacles and growing from setbacks is essential for happiness. Resilience is our capacity to become adaptable to changes and improve life when plan A does not work out. It is important in life to use resistance for the next challenge or step to be conquered in life. Learning to look at problems as opportunities to learn and grow. Resilience is also the commitment to life to reach our goals and achieve happiness. The intense stimulation to get out of bed each day to reach for our dreams. This commitment could be what keeps us giving second chances to our relationships and friendships. People who are resilient don’t spend their energy focusing on events they cannot control.

Resilience is our capacity to become adaptable to changes and improve life when plan A does not work out.

The key is to put the efforts where there would make the most impact. Excessive worrying about things we cannot control could leave us feeling helpless and lost. Resilience is also optimism, and optimistic people see bad events as something temporary. Staying resilient could also develop a sense of compassion and of becoming empathetic. A resilient mindset can bring a change on how to overcome stress and deal with success.

My Personal History Developing Resilience:

Developing Resilience Overcoming and Growing from Setbacks - withlovewen.comDuring the past years, I learned so many things new about me. Many have always been here. A hidden place waiting to be finally discovered. The product of reality, maturity and life experiences. Have you ever walk around life with the undoubted certainty that you know who you are? But, then one day, life makes you see yourself in a different mirror, and for the first time comes the real discovery that was kept hidden from yourself. I have lived inside the skin of a pantomime that acted, smiled and moved like me, and the shocking moment discovering my real face behind so many masks. I am finally meeting myself.

After such discovery, I paid attention to my body and found inches of skin unrecognizable before. I became a fan of the back of my neck, shape of my mouth, earlobe and waves on my messy curly hair. Location on each birthmark on my body, shape, and colors of my natural fingernails, brown color of my eyes, tiny feet in comparison to my tall height, glow on the skin of my shoulders, blue veins in my arms and body symmetric.

beach-glasses-makeup-withlovewenDuring the past years, I learned so many things new about me. Many have always been here. A hidden place waiting to be finally discovered. The product of reality, maturity and life experiences. Have you ever walk around life with the undoubted certainty that you know who you are? But, then one day, life makes you see yourself in a different mirror.

Before this discovery, I used to see my body as clothing sizes going up or down, amounts of weight needed to drop, muscles to shape and body to tone. I saw my body according to how well the dresses in my closet fit in or not, and how tight the jeans were. I saw my body as a small and medium size success or a big number on the scale catastrophe.

But at one beautiful moment, I found invisibly written words on my skin for each person that I have ever loved. Those other words from the past that at one point left me with scars and hurt me. Now, were fading with the daily renewal of my skin, maturity, and experiences. However, what I am most proud of, is that I could look at myself as a whole, and find beautiful words on every inch of my body from the many people who love me unconditionally.

I must confess, that I am surprised to realize that many were my words. At some desperate point in life, I gifted myself beautiful, brave words and mantras to use in the future. As someone lost to the sea in a shipwreck, sending an SOS message to a soul who would read it afterward in the future. SOS messages of self-love, resilience, and validation which transformed and made me brave during several situations.

But at one beautiful moment, I found invisible written words on my skin for each person that I have ever loved. I must confess, that I am surprised to realize that many were my words. At some desperate point in life, I gifted myself beautiful, brave words and mantras to use in the future.

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These incredible words are too many at present. They become bigger each day and turn into the brightest lights in any room. I discovered that my body is breathing intuition, vibration, and energy, and no longer logic and fixable-addictive thinking. Materialistic living and possessions will never be able to satisfy this soul, which instead craves intensity, creativity, and spiritual connections. I discovered that I have been homesick my whole life, missing something or someone I could not find or identify. So when I confronted my true self, I discovered that I am no longer homesick. I finally found my missing home in ME.

Original article was published by me at SheKnows.com

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How To Cultivate Resilience And Grow From Setbacks:

• Envision a brighter future ahead and keep a positive mentality.
• Make sure to stay surrounded by healthy relationships, which will support and motivate your decisions instead of constant criticism.
• Say no to the victim mentality. Focus your energy on improving what you cannot control.

• Exercises, sleep and keeping stress under control. A healthy body and mind will respond more efficiently to the many obstacles.
• Stay away from negative thoughts. Use positive daily affirmation and watch how you talk to yourself.
• Learn from mistakes, problems, and lessons. There is strength in the capacity to overcome and move past the difficulties.
• Work daily on self-love and confidence. When you develop confidence, you will move forward due to your inner strength.
• Stay flexible to changes.

The reality is that sometimes we are going to fail from time to time. Living means making mistakes and the need to grow from setbacks. We should not stop from seeking our dreams; even at the risk of failing.  Resilient means staying strong, through the lessons so we can move to achieve better and bigger dreams. The power to overcome setbacks will come from resilience.

With Love, Wen

 

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19 Comments

  1. I totally agree with you. Overcoming obstacles is essential for happiness. I remember telling a guy that my happiness was a priority and he stopped talking to me. I was confused. That just made me realise that my happiness is indeed essential to my well-being. Without self love, one can’t be truly happy.

  2. Yes! Positive thoughts and affirmations are an amazing way to change your life and be ore positive. I also support rejecting toxic people from your life to be free. We will all face setbacks but can come out stronger.

  3. I believe that happiness is a most important thing in this world. If you’re not happy, then everything is vain. If you’re happy, then only you can make your loved ones happy!

    • Absolutely. Happiness is an inside job. No money or achievement will be able to give us happiness until we introspect and dig into what is true happiness for each of us.

  4. Great words of wisdom…say “No” to victim mentality. If you don’t you are giving the other person or situation way to much power over you!

    • The “victim” mentality has become a generalized epidemic in today’s society. Embracing and accepting personal changes is the only way for real improvement.

  5. Thank you for these reminders. To know that I have the ability to create the life I want with the thoughts I feed my mind is an incredible gift. I love that you pointed out more than a few ways to create a resilient character – it is absolutely necessary in the world we live in today. Thank you for sharing all this positivity! Definitely needed to read this right now.

  6. Great post to read about resilience. Tough times don’t really last, but tough people do. Stay strong girl! 😀

  7. Resiliency is so important as we go through life. There will be several situations that we’ll go through and need to overcome. It’s important to have the right tools to overcome them and be able to bounce back even strong than ever. Very insightful tips, thank you!

    • As the saying goes “Life gets harder and harder,” so we need to improve ourselves and invest in us daily to overcome obstacles.

  8. We all have things we’ve suffered and struggled through. What a great post on resilience!

  9. This post really resonated with me, especially the part about the words on your skin fading. Surviving an abusive relationship, his hurtful words still sting in my moments of insecurity

  10. Great tips. Positive thinking is vital while overcoming the victim mentality. Thanks for sharing!

  11. You have no idea how perfect this was for me today! Thank you for sharing!

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